OT/ Sometimes life is not fair

[gcode]

Last Wensday morning a 27 year old kid my wife works with was in the delivery room watching his wife deliver their second child. He passed out and landed flat on the back of his head. He's been in a coma ever since.

This morning the doctors pronounced him brain dead.

 

From the happiest of times to the worst of times in the blink of an eye

[Toolfab]

Wow, how do you even respond to something like that. That is terrible.

[cadcam]

+100 to toolfab, that just kills me.

[Code_Breaker]

wow . . . that puts a lot of things in perspective. Tell Pat that both my wife and I will be praying for the family. Is there a name I can put with our prayers?

 

Code_Breaker

[Mark Lovelace]

There are no words...

[gcode]

His name is Steve

[Lee.]

I'll be praying for Steve and his family too.

 

That is tragic.

[Gary]

Man that is to sad. Just makes you want to go hug your kids. I can't even imagine that poor family.

[MetalMarvels]

I will also be keeping Steve and his family in prayer.

[Guest CNC Apps Guy 1]

WOW!!!! For once I'm speachless...

[gcode]

One of my old high school buddies passed out in the delivery room during the birth of his first child. He'd alway fancied himself a tough guy. He got a couple of stitches out of it and we teased him about it for years.

When my wife started to tell me about this I was already chuckling half way through the story, but the ending wasn't funny

Fathers passing out in delivery rooms is not uncommon. Maybe they should make them wear helmets or sit down so they can't fall down ???

[Slixmix]

That just ruined my day. How horrible. Is there a trust fund or anything for there family where we can help out? Just sad.

[gcode]

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Is there a trust fund or anything for there family where we can help out

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I don't know. His brother has been dealing with all the details. The wife is still in the hospital

from the delivery. She knows her husband is hurt,

but not how bad. It is my understanding that

they have to make a decision regarding life

support this afternoon.

 

If I get any details about a trust fund I will post them.

Something like this makes all the problems we take so seriously seem very petty.

[Brendan P]

This is very unfortunate.

Last December,(and I have really not told anyone but Chris on the forum)cause I didn't want to hear the "I'm sorrys" even know that you people here are really great friends,(And no,I do not want to hijack this thread either)

My wife was pregnant with our second baby.

She was 2 months into the pregnancy when she started to have some bleeding going on.

she scheduled an appt. with gyno,and brought her mother for support.

Upon giving the the ultra-sound,the technition announces to us that she had "Bad News" and we lost the baby.

(She left the room so we could mourn in private)

 

My wife started crying bad,my mother in law decides to pass out and fell backwards and landed right on the back of her head!

She would not wake up.

I opened the door and screamed for help.

 

They run in and try to wake her up,but needed the smelling salt. (which barely worked)

She got taken out by ambulance and brought for major brain tests.

She ended up in Burlington Lahey for 1.5 weeks!

Where they discovered a hole in her brain from the fall.

 

She had to go thru extensive re-hab,and to this day is still not able to drive a car.

I am very fortunate that she is ok and she is doing pretty darn good for what happened.

But she is still recovering from it.

 

I am sorry for going on about this,but when I read this thread,it reminded me all too well.

 

The only thing that may have helped her is that the room had a carpeted floor which could have been a contributing factor for Steve if it was the normal "tile".

 

I am soo sory to hear about your wifes friend gcode,and I just finished dragging my wife to the computer to read your thread.

[Jack Mitchell]

Gcode,

 

This is a horror story that need not have happened and I find it inexcusable that medical professionals could even remotely respond to such a horrible and tragic event.

 

I was present for the delivery off all of my children – including my first which required the use of forecepts. The Doctor and attending nurses insisted that I leave due to this procedure – I graciously declined and remained throughout to both comfort my wife and to witness a miracle.

 

The simply fact of the matter is that one of the attending nurses watched me like a hawk to ensure my own safety as well as that of the whole affair of a totally wondering experience. Apparently, it is not uncommon for husbands to become overwhelmed or faint in the final moments of something as beautiful and so unbelievable. To me, for a team of professionals that do not allow for everybody’s safety in such situations is totally unacceptable and virtually unconscionable as well.

 

This woman must be told the truth today. – The hospital administration should also consider recourse for total gross and needless negligence.

I am - No!, we are, absolutely appalled that such a thing could ever happen now or ever again. This mother must do the right thing so that this can never ever happen again.

 

As ridiculous as this might sound; patients leaving a hospital in Ontario Canada are always released in a wheel chair and escorted to the front exit – I am absolutely sure that this practice is done to ensure a patient cannot fall or hurt himself until off of the hospital property thereby releasing a hospital of any and all liability.

 

Such a horrific, shameful, and needless tragedy.

 

PS. Brendan - thank you also for sharing in your family's grief - we are all very dear friends in here and always support each other in time of need.

 

 

Regards, Jack

[gcode]

Just to let everyone know....

They took Steve off the breathing machine this afternoon and he died within minutes.

I think his family will allow him to be an organ donor, so maybe someone can benifit from this

horrible event.

 

Thanks for all you prayers and kind words.

[crazy^millman]

Dude that brought tears. He is in our prayers and his family is also. In America Jack they do not let you leave ths hosiptal but in a wheelchiar I know been there done that and with my wife both time on boths sides of the country.

 

Brendan i fully understand your not sharing and no need to aplogize. I am give you my familys deepst sympthaies and pray for the bets for your mother-in-law. I was left alone with my wife in both deliveries for hours and it really pissed me off. I told the doctors and nurses in Florida and here that I thought it was a very un profressional thing. There response was well you looked so comfortable and had things under control. My response was do I look like a Doctor. Sorry for the Highjack that really bothers me and will be on my mind for some time and let us know if we can help that family. I got boxes of kids clothes and toy I can mail to them just send me an email with the adress and I will get it to them.

 

[Thad]

This is terrible! My sympathies are with Steve and his family.

 

Edit: Just saw your message that Steve has passed. It's a terrible shame. I don't know what else to say.

 

You're right, it's just not fair.

 

Thad

 

[ 07-02-2004, 10:43 PM: Message edited by: Thad ]

[Mike Mattera - TFM]

That's the key reason I stayed out of the delivery room. I know they had better things to do than trip over my body. I know I'm not up to the task for that kind of experience. I know some of you will tell me how beauitful the experience was see your wives giving birth. Not for me.

 

I feel bad for the family. Very bad misfortune. Just goes to show you lifes short. Get out and live it while you can.

 

Mike Mattera

[Brendan P]

Our condolences to Steves family.

Thank you for sharing the story,it may help us all to not have this happen again to a family member by being educated to watch for things like this in the future.

[wtsylvester]

It's really sad to hear of such a thing happening esp. with a young family starting out.

Gosh it's hard enough to raise a family these days just under normal circumstances.

I'm glad you shared it with us. It is a eye-opener that we should look out for those that go INTO the delivery room as well.

[Mark Lovelace]

G-code,

 

None of us here (aside from yourself) know this family at all, yet we obviously are feeling a great deal of pain and concern for those involved. I know that there is nothing that we, here, could possibly do that would ease the pain of their loss, but if we can help in some other way, even if it's as simple as contributing to a trust fund, please let us know.

[Guest]

Man, there are just no words.....

 

It really does put the important things in perspective. You just really can't sweat the small stuff.

 

My thoughts and prayers go out to Steve and his family and friends.

[wtsylvester]

I have passed this on to some other newsgroups.

I hope others will do the same. We need to info others so that something like this doesn't happen again.

[gcode]

Mark,

I didn't know Steve either. He was an owner/ opererator truck driver who made deleiveries

to my wife's office on a daily basis.

My wife is a good judge of character and she says he was good people.

She'e taking this pretty hard.

The tragedy and irony of Steve getting killed

at the instant his child was being born is overwhelming. People get killed all the time and we don't even blink. If Steve had driven his

truck off the freeway, I wouldn't have even mentioned it here. It was the timing and manner of his death that is so stunning.

There are 2 things we (and his family) can take consolation in.

1. When his head hit the floor he was probably as happy as a man can be.

2. As I type, his heart, lungs, kidneys etc are

being transplanted into other people. His death will save or improve the lives of many others.

 

Thank you, everybody for the heartfelt sympathy and concern.

Brendan, thanks for sharing your similar story.

My wife and I will pray your your mother in law's

full recovery.